If we are to live our truth we must trust, listen, communicate with and above all, trust ourselves.
You cannot be your best possible self without giving yourself the same respect you give other and demand they give to you. The problem is we are often blue to how we truly treat ourselves. The following are some sign that you might be disrespecting yourself:
1. You say yes to things that are not important to you or that you do not have time for
The first part of respecting yourself comes when you respect the time and energy you have to give by only spending it on people and projects that interest you most. You aren’t doing yourself any favors by filling your days with unimportant things, this only subtracts from the tome you have to look after yourself and make yourself whole.
2. You present yourself as something you are not to gain favor with others
At some time or other, everyone feels the need to change their lives to impress someone. Deep down we know we shouldn’t have to do it, but we do it anyway. To think you aren’t good enough as you are is the ultimate sign that you disrespect yourself. If you aren’t good enough for other people how will you ever be good enough for yourself?
3. You agree with other people just because you don’t want to cause offence
Your opinion matters. When you don’t express them, you are saying to yourself and everyone around you that they don’t. If someone take offence by your honest and thoughtful opinion, then they weren’t seeking advice, they were looking for a “yes” man. Show respect you yourself and others by always kindly expressing how you honestly feel.
4. You put the needs of others before your own
You aren’t helping anyone by ignoring your own need for rest, relaxation and self-care. You will operate better, be more productive and emotionally stable when you look after your own needs before others.
5. You feel guilty for doing the right thing when it goes against the advice you have received from others.
Looking for advice is a vital part of life, but it is important to remember that advice is only advice. Whether you give it or receive it, there should never be a personal affront when it isn’t followed. This only means it wasn’t right at the time. You should never feel guilt when you go again the advice friends or loved ones gave you, as long as you make the decision that feels right for you.
6. You don’t set the record straight and defend yourself
Nobody likes conflict and sometimes it really is best to just let things go. However, it is important that this is balanced with defending yourself. If you are going to be able to respect yourself, it is vital that other people know the true us and the role we play in some situations. It might be speaking out about being wronged or correcting a right. Whatever it is, being upfront and allowing others to see the true you is a true sign you respect yourself.
7. You hide how you really feel.
Human beings are emotional creatures. Society teaches us to keep our feelings hidden so others do not feel uncomfortable. Every time you say things are fine when they are not you disrespect yourself. Be true to who you are and how you are feeling.
8. You seek attention
The only attention that truly counts is that which we give ourselves. When you seek attention from other people, you are simply looking for a source of validation outside of ourselves for something that we already know. If you find yourself acting in a particular way to get attention, stop, and then try to figure out what is missing and fill that gap.
9. You always people please and that makes you a doormat
You only ever have control over your own happiness. When we are happy we want others to share our happiness. The problem with this is that when we try to make others happy we normally leave them wanting, and create a great void inside. You should focus on yourself, for that is where the greatest change can happen. As Gandhi said, “Be the change you want to see in the world.”
10. You surround yourself with bad company
It is hard to be authentic and true to yourself when you are hanging around with people who do not share your beliefs or who hold the same values as you. You should take the time to seek out like-minded people that will support who you are. Love and support among friends promotes mutual respect.
No one wants to disrespect themselves. The truth is a lot of disrespect comes from automatic behavior that you are not even aware of. You do not have to see the approval of others at the cost of being your true self. Stand up for who you are and what you believe in. This is the true sign of having respect for yourself.