Being better can lead to some unhappy consequences in your life. It can drive people away, put up unwanted walls around your heart, and gives you a negative outlook on life. So it can be important to avoid habits that could lead you to be a bitter person.
A habit is a behavior that you do without being aware that you are doing it. It is something that comes naturally without you having to think about it, and that is a problem when dealing with negative habits.
The downside to this is that most of the habits that we are not aware of are usually the negative ones.We tend to smoother our feelings about our negative behaviors because deep down inside we disapprove of our actions.
People know that acting bitter is not a pleasant experience for those around us, yet we still tend to complainabout past events. The Reminiscence Functions Scaleis a personality assessment tool. It was created to look at how people remember their past experiences. One of the factors that are looked at is the Bitterness Revival. This looks at how much time people spend thinking about memories of old injustices, bad times and missed out opportunities.
It is most commonly believed that older people tend to be more bitter, but research has shown that young adults are more likely to spend time thinking about their bitter memories. There are a few things that can be done to help you avoid these bitter bad habits.
1. Being Jaded
Jaded has several definitions but they all come back to having a steady flow of negative experiences that leads to them just not caring about others. When you stop caring about people it makes you out to be a sociopath, not the best thing to be. The odd thing here is thatbitter people really do care about what happens to them, but they just do not care about what happens to those that have hurt them.
Being jaded also tends to make a bitter person just generalize all of their anger, even towards people who have not hurt them yet. For instance, a man who has been through a divorce or two will start to see all woman as being out to get him. This means that the man will be closed off to all women and miss out on connecting with that one special person.
2. Being Jealous
Jealousy comes in many different forms, like envy. Envy is a hatred or bitterness towards another person for having an advantage that you do not have. Being jealous of the little or absurd things can lead anybody to become a bitter person. For example, having a friend that just got a nice new car and instead of being truly happy for them, you get mad at them because they have something that you might not able to have at this moment in time.
3. Holding A Grudge
Bitter people tend to keep an on-going record of all the things that have gone wrong in their lives and who is responsible for it. Which means that during any big argument they are going to bring up all of those things, instead of just forgiving and forgetting.
Play this game can be dangerous, and is something that you should try not to do. When someone does something that you do like try telling them right then and there that you do not appreciate being treated that way.
4. Act Out in Attention-Seeking Way
People who are bitter are more likely to create a big scene. They will act melodramatic and want you to treat them like they are the most important person in the whole world. No person needs that much attention, and people who do get that much attention will get tired of it.
5. Focusing On The Negative
Lots of bitter people tend to focus only on the negative things in life. By doing this they are missing out on new life experiences. Focusing on the negative will up unwanted barriers, and they will never get to try anything new because they are scared.
Life is full of exciting new things, so open yourself up and get out there and experience new things. Do not let yourself settle into being bitter, try to avoid these habits. It will take some effort but in the end, it will be time well spent.